What's Wrong With Being 1?
I never really understood what the big deal is about going somewhere alone. Okay so here is the sitch. There is this indoor golf place called Hollywood Park right, and I went there ALONE to have a little fun....BY MYSELF. I have always wanted to learn how to play golf, but my boobies always get in the way. Anyway I got dressed and went to play some golf.
When I got there the lady at the desk where you pay for what ever it is you want to do...you know bumper cars, mini golf, theme rides etc...asked me would I like to wait for my party before I went in. Now first of all what made her think I had party I was waiting for? I mean why can't I be alone? So I told her no, and paid for my golf game and went on in.
While waiting in the line to get my balls...*I could tell a joke there but I will leave that to Zed* The young dude at the counter asked me if I would like to wait for my boyfriend cause the bucket of balls was sort of heavy for me to carry all by myself. Now first of all what made him think I couldn't carry the bucket all by myself? I mean you don't need a boyfriend for everything do you? So I told him no, and picked up my bucket of balls and went on in.
I played a few rounds and did horribly as suspected and became incredibly hungry in the process, so I went to get something to eat. When I arrived at one of my favorite places to eat IHOP...yeah man IHOP! The hostess asked me...just one? Now she saw me come in by myself, but maybe she thought he...was parking the car or something, so I told her no just one. Then she goes are you sure, like I am not sure I want to eat alone. WTF? By now this whole thing was getting on my nerves. So I tell her no just one, grab a menu, walk in and find my own damn seat.
Well while I was waiting for a wait person to come and take my order, the person that came to the table brought me some water and said she would give my party a few more minutes before she took my order....okay now I'm PISSED! *Dee~Dee in a noticeable tone of voice*
LOOK, I AM NOT WAITING FOR MY BOYFRIEND. I AM NOT WAITING FOR MY HUSBAND. NOR AM I WAITING FOR A FEW FRIENDS SO WE CAN PASS WITTING BANTER BACK AND FORTH. I AM ALONE AND I AM READY TO ORDER. I WILL HAVE THE SAMPLE PLATTER MINUS THE BACON AND SAUSAGE. INSTEAD I WOULD LIKE SLICED TURKEY AND HASHBROWNS. I WOULD LIKE MY EGGS SCRAMBLED LIGHT WITH CHEESE AND MY PANCAKES ON A SEPERATE PLATE...WITH A RASPBERRY TEA NO ICE. THANK YOU.
Why can't a girl just have one of those days when she just wants to chill all by herself without some one thinking she is lonely? I mean grant it I do have my bouts with loneliness and what not...and I promised myself I would never eat alone...but hey I am not going to let my life slip away just because I don't have a boyfriend or husband to play golf with or to carry my balls, or to have dinner with....sometimes it's good to be by yourself. Hey it doesn't feel good trust me I know, but it's all I can do for now and I am enjoying my self time. I am getting to know me and finding out what I need and want. This is the holding pattern that God has me in right now and I am not going to let society tell me it's wrong!
Well after my meal I got up to leave and gave the wait person a nice size tip...seeing how I got just a little convicted by the tone I gave her...sorry.
When I got there the lady at the desk where you pay for what ever it is you want to do...you know bumper cars, mini golf, theme rides etc...asked me would I like to wait for my party before I went in. Now first of all what made her think I had party I was waiting for? I mean why can't I be alone? So I told her no, and paid for my golf game and went on in.
While waiting in the line to get my balls...*I could tell a joke there but I will leave that to Zed* The young dude at the counter asked me if I would like to wait for my boyfriend cause the bucket of balls was sort of heavy for me to carry all by myself. Now first of all what made him think I couldn't carry the bucket all by myself? I mean you don't need a boyfriend for everything do you? So I told him no, and picked up my bucket of balls and went on in.
I played a few rounds and did horribly as suspected and became incredibly hungry in the process, so I went to get something to eat. When I arrived at one of my favorite places to eat IHOP...yeah man IHOP! The hostess asked me...just one? Now she saw me come in by myself, but maybe she thought he...was parking the car or something, so I told her no just one. Then she goes are you sure, like I am not sure I want to eat alone. WTF? By now this whole thing was getting on my nerves. So I tell her no just one, grab a menu, walk in and find my own damn seat.
Well while I was waiting for a wait person to come and take my order, the person that came to the table brought me some water and said she would give my party a few more minutes before she took my order....okay now I'm PISSED! *Dee~Dee in a noticeable tone of voice*
LOOK, I AM NOT WAITING FOR MY BOYFRIEND. I AM NOT WAITING FOR MY HUSBAND. NOR AM I WAITING FOR A FEW FRIENDS SO WE CAN PASS WITTING BANTER BACK AND FORTH. I AM ALONE AND I AM READY TO ORDER. I WILL HAVE THE SAMPLE PLATTER MINUS THE BACON AND SAUSAGE. INSTEAD I WOULD LIKE SLICED TURKEY AND HASHBROWNS. I WOULD LIKE MY EGGS SCRAMBLED LIGHT WITH CHEESE AND MY PANCAKES ON A SEPERATE PLATE...WITH A RASPBERRY TEA NO ICE. THANK YOU.
Why can't a girl just have one of those days when she just wants to chill all by herself without some one thinking she is lonely? I mean grant it I do have my bouts with loneliness and what not...and I promised myself I would never eat alone...but hey I am not going to let my life slip away just because I don't have a boyfriend or husband to play golf with or to carry my balls, or to have dinner with....sometimes it's good to be by yourself. Hey it doesn't feel good trust me I know, but it's all I can do for now and I am enjoying my self time. I am getting to know me and finding out what I need and want. This is the holding pattern that God has me in right now and I am not going to let society tell me it's wrong!
Well after my meal I got up to leave and gave the wait person a nice size tip...seeing how I got just a little convicted by the tone I gave her...sorry.
What's wrong with being one?
U.W.R.A:)
Comments
I can SOOO relate to this post. Lately, I've been eating lunch in restaurants...by myself. At first, I wasn't necessarily comfortable with it, but it kinda grew on me. I guess partly because now I just go and sit at the bar...with the crowd of others who also came either alone or to have a drink, and harass the 'lonely' women lol. Hey, the way I see it, I don't have a man to do it with, and my life is not going to stop just because I don't.
Hey ma! I am diffntly in this way right now...and like you said it does take some getting used to, but I am doing fine....shooks I went to a play by myself this month:)
ToneeC...
I feel you ma...my alone time is really doing me some good right now:)
I'm a firm believer in the fact that a woman does not always have to have somebody. My mother always told me that people should always take the time to enjoy their own company and I believe that! If you can't enjoy your own company, how can you enjoy the company of someone else?
For example, people that go from relationship to relationship w/o ever taking anytime for themselves in between. Ladies should always take some time to reflect and get to know themselves from time to time.
Of course, I'm no expert, but I think EVERYONE should spend so time alone every now and then (smile).
Wishing Very Happy Holidays to you!!!
Jesus is 1, God is 1, one mother, one father, 1 morning, 1 evening, 1 sun, 1 moon, 1 star that shines brighter than the others. when you find your soul mate, you two will become as one.
see, nothing at all. one is great.
and at dinner, movies, shopping, one is cheap too ;)
I have been out with dudes, and still felt alone.... lol.
but I'm queen of lil solo hangs for various reasons, sometimes you just dont want to hear about:
- sob stories
- why me, woes me,n' all Me-ism
- why they really want ur drawers tonight.
- Zzzzzzz, those be those dates that you just don't know what the hell they talkin about.
Mostly I just like to spend time with me, and collecting my many many thoughts... no fuss over the bill, and the tip.
go on and take ur self out baby!!!
i doubt I would go to the golf place alone, the gym yes, but the gulf place I would prefer to carry company.
Secondly, that is my song u playing... last... I wish u lived here or vice versa.. then we'd NEVER be alone. Love ya!
Peace
..too strong for too long...
Now that's it right there ma!:)
Reesie...
LMAO!!!! You better get at Carlos...:) Chk your email for the number ma!...And I wish that too...Shooks New Years Eve we should be kicking it!:(
Stunner...
I guess so love...but it was fun!
Mills...
Call me like asap ma!:)
Brooklyn...
What it do ma! I am...and I am enjoying it..for now any ways:)
Bee...
I will be there New Years youngin...okay?
Dizyaboy...
He's back!!!! What it do papi? Thanks:)
Painkey...
You always hit it right on the nose don't you? Thanks love!
Goddess...
I thought there wasn't...hey ma!
NSearch...
You make some real good points ma:)
Insane...
Yeah ma I am enjoying it as well...Rose said it exact I do believe:)
*walking away, counting my brownie points*
KZ
That's real talk right there papi!
*20...21...22...23.....:)*
I told my lil'bro a couple of years ago to make it a point to go spend a day to himself, without his boys or some dingy broad, at least once every six weeks. He thought I was crazy for saying that, but now he realizes he NEEDS that time off to himself, to enjoy himself... And he actually looks forward to it.
You do you, Ma!
Ladylee
LoL...me and my balls are enjoying this me time...it gets hard but I manage...:)
Ladylee...
That's some sound advice you gave your brother...he will value it later on I bet:)
being single isn't the end of the world... there're always advantages to it.. i posted something about it. hope it helps others to understand :)